Thursday, August 21, 2025

I said to my soul... Wait without hope


 Is there anything more agonizing in life than waiting? It is one of the most common themes in the book of the Psalms. "How long, O lord?" is a common refrain. When we are younger the waiting is usually quickly satisfied... "How long till we get there?" "When are we going to eat?".  With age, the questions get more difficult and the waiting is sometimes LONG and agonizing. Waiting for the wayward child, waiting for the next career promotion, waiting, waiting, waiting, and then some more waiting.

When I was in college, I faced my first LONG encounter with waiting and uncertainty. As I look back on it now, I realize I made a much bigger deal out of it than it deserved, but that's how life works. During that period, I dove into some deep philosophical books on the subject, but it was ultimately a poem that spoke to me in the most impactful way and I have referenced this poem many times in my life..

“I said to my soul, be still and wait without hope, for hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love, for love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith, but the faith and the love are all in the waiting. Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought: So the darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing.” TS Elliot from East Coker

In a previous blog post I talked about how integral faith hope and love are to a meaningful existence and there is deep scriptural truth to that concept. "wait without hope" is a reminder that our hopes need to be examined to be sure that they are properly placed. Hoping in the wrong things or putting too much hope in a particular thing only adds more agony and struggle to the waiting. The same concept is true if our Love is misplaced. We can love the wrong things too much and agony upon agony sets in. So, our faith, hope, and love are all purified in the process of waiting.... IF we use the opportunity to evaluate our hopes and love and reset them.

"Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought." In periods of waiting, we can drive ourselves crazy examining scenarios and trying to make sense of things we have no control over. Peace in times of waiting isn't found by understanding all the machinations going on around us but rather in just being still.. Get comfortable with the darkness. Get comfortable in the not knowing and dance in the stillness! There is freedom there!

Be still and know that he is God...

Wednesday, August 6, 2025

Faith, Hope, and Love...

In a recent visit with my pastor, we were talking through the struggles and life changes Sondra and I are facing: my job transition (difficult), Sondra's dad passing away (awful), Jay getting married (yippee—but a big change), Josie moving off to college (jury's still out), and a few other things. It has been a lot to cram into a six-week period, to say the least.

I could go on and on about each of these challenges, but that’s not really the point here.

As we processed everything together, Matt asked me a simple question: “How can I help?” Just this morning, I found myself asking a friend who is facing a very difficult life trial that exact same question. It’s an easy question to ask, but a difficult one to answer. My typical response is: “Just pray.” And that’s a good answer—prayer matters—but it often doesn’t feel specific or comforting in the moment.

But this time, I believe the Holy Spirit brought something else to mind—1 Corinthians 13:13:

“And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

This verse is often quoted to emphasize the superiority of love over all things. But I think it’s easy to gloss over the vital importance of faith and hope. Paul wasn’t trying to diminish them—he was elevating love in comparison to two other great virtues. After all, love can only be the greatest when compared to other truly great things.

So, my answer this time was this: You can give me faith, hope, and love.

Faith can be exercised on behalf of others—through prayer, through encouragement from God’s Word, and by believing that God is at work even when things feel hopeless. Hope can be something we hold out for others when their own hope seems gone. And truthfully, I don’t think we can love others well unless we also have faith and hope. When faith is lost and hope is gone, what is left but to mourn the loss and try to move on?

Now think about love without faith and hope. What can motivate love to act in the absence of faith and hope. Earlier in the chapter, Paul vividly describes what a life of faith looks like without love—it’s empty, noisy, and ultimately fruitless. But can we really have hope without faith? Paul’s statement that “these three remain” shows the essential nature of all three virtues working together. And if we have faith, hope, and love—what more do we truly need, no matter what life throws our way? Our existence is complete so long as we have these three things.

“The greatest of these is love” shows us that faith and hope are made visible in the way we love others—and in how we allow others to love us. These three are beautifully interwoven. Their symbiotic nature is what helps us live whole, healthy lives—within our families, our churches, our workplaces, and our communities.

So we pray:

Lord, may our lives be filled with these three things—faith, hope, and love.

Tuesday, July 15, 2025

Poppy

 A couple of years ago, my dear friend Greg Beadles turned me on to Michael Hyatt's life planning resource. At the outset of the planning guide, Hyatt states "A good plan starts with the end in mind." That is true whether you are building a house or taking a road trip. You must define your destination.

On July 4, my dear father-in-law, Louis Eubanks (Poppy), went home to be with the Lord. When he was on his death bed I expressed desires to Sondra to do his funeral message, but the Lord changed my mind to just observe and what I observed taught me more than I could've learned or imparted in preparing a 20 minute tribute.

It started as we brought him home from the hospital to spend his last few days in his home (our home) and the house was FILLED with prayers, food, well-wishers, and lovers of Poppy. In our home —surrounded by family, friends, and so many people whose lives had been touched by Poppy—I saw the kind of ending worth aiming for.

It was not an ending marked by applause, recognition, or great wealth. But a legacy. A life that left a mark.

My eyes were further opened at the viewing and funeral services. What a crowd!! I heard too many kind words to count—stories about how he served, loved, encouraged, and just showed up. Stories from Sunday School classes, ballfields, hospital rooms, classrooms, and quiet moments of friendship. It gave me a fresh vision for what I hope my own life can be.

Poppy lived simply and faithfully—and in doing so, he shaped the lives of everyone around him. He left a mark.

He showed me a great end to aim for. And for that, I’m deeply grateful.

Wednesday, October 14, 2009

Naked and unashamed

I had this thought last night while I was bathing my children. One of these days, Jay and or Josie will likely cross a line where they are somewhat ashamed of their nakedness. I can hear it now in the echoes of my own voice and the voices of my sisters growing up. “don’t come in here mom!! I’m naked! (that’s Ne-kid, not nay-kid)

I’m not sure what flipped the switch in me, although I’m glad it switched or else things would be weird, but something definitely switched.

Right now, I’m still cherishing these early years while they are still naked and unashamed. They are so much fun. They enjoy life without any of the entrapments of sexuality, puberty, self-consciousness, etc… I think Jay would gladly take up streaking if we let him. Naked just simply isn’t an issue for him.

In my tangled way of relating things, I thought last night about Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. They were Naked (that’s Nay-kid, not Ne-kid) and they were unashamed. They were completely comfortable in the presence of the creator without any shame, remorse, or regrets. They were in complete fellowship with Him.

As I thought about this further, I thought about what Christ has done for us as believers. He has forgiven us. He has cleansed us. He has restored the fractured relationship that existed between God and man. He has made us righteous!! Even in our sinful fallen state, we can be Naked and unashamed before God. We can come before him with confidence that we are redeemed, that we are accepted, we are His!!! Even in all of our imperfections, weaknesses, insecurities, etc…

So, the question remains for me. Why don’t I? Why am I still so often hiding in the bushes from God, like Adam and Eve did, because I am naked and ashamed?

We all need to be naked before God. Be real with Him. He sees through our “clothes” anyway!

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Better things are coming...

I've really been struggling a lot lately and I have a friend that reminded me yesterday of one of the purposes of struggles in this life.

As CS Lewis wrote about in Mere Christianity, we are never to be fully comfortable in this world. A constant feeling of discontentment with this life (in varying degrees) is a reminder to us that we were not made for this world, but for another. It is that life and that world (the one to come) that we should fix our hopes upon and our attention upon. This will maximize our contentment here and now.

Romans 8:18For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us. 19For the creation waits with eager longing for the revealing of the sons of God. 20For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of him who subjected it, in hope 21that the creation itself will be set free from its bondage to corruption and obtain the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22For we know that the whole creation has been groaning together in the pains of childbirth until now. 23And not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the firstfruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly as we wait eagerly for adoption as sons, the redemption of our bodies. 24For in this hope we were saved. Now hope that is seen is not hope. For who hopes for what he sees? 25But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience.
26Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. For we do not know what to pray for as we ought, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words. 27And he who searches hearts knows what is the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for the saints according to the will of God. 28And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. 29For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son, in order that he might be the firstborn among many brothers. 30And those whom he predestined he also called, and those whom he called he also justified, and those whom he justified he also glorified.

Friday, April 3, 2009

Hebrews 12.. Encouraging words.

5 And have you forgotten the encouraging words God spoke to you as his children? He said, “My child, don’t make light of the Lord’s discipline, and don’t give up when he corrects you. 6 For the Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes each one he accepts as his child.” 7 As you endure this divine discipline, remember that God is treating you as his own children. Who ever heard of a child who is never disciplined by its father? 8 If God doesn’t discipline you as he does all of his children, it means that you are illegitimate and are not really his children at all. 9 Since we respected our earthly fathers who disciplined us, shouldn’t we submit even more to the discipline of the Father of our spirits, and live forever? 10 For our earthly fathers disciplined us for a few years, doing the best they knew how. But God’s discipline is always good for us, so that we might share in his holiness. 11 No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening—it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way. 12 So take a new grip with your tired hands and strengthen your weak knees. 13 Mark out a straight path for your feet so that those who are weak and lame will not fall but become strong.

Friday, March 27, 2009

God, be my Source!!

Psalm 62:5 For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence, for my hope is from him. 6 He only is my rock and my salvation, my fortress; I shall not be shaken. 7 On God rests my salvation and my glory; my mighty rock, my refuge is God.

I long for this kind of trust in God and God alone for EVERYTHING. I get the sense from reading this Psalm that even if the whole world crumbled around David, he really would not be shaken, but would stand confident and complete in God. For crying out loud, when I have a bad day or bad week, I often lose hope.

God, I long for you in this way. Help me to hope in you and nothing else so that even if my world is turned upside down, I will still be at peace in You. Remove this unrest from my soul and replace it with peace and faith.